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Domestic Violence -The Issues

dv1Domestic violence is a deliberate act. If a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, or someone you share a child with repeatedly injures you or threatens to do bodily harm to you, that is domestic violence.

Who are the Victims?

Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. Victims can be any age, sex, race, sexual orientaton, ethnic group, religion, profession, or socio-economic status.

Who are the Offenders?

Offenders consist of individuals of all levels including both sexes, all races, all age groupings, all religions, and all socio-economic and educational levels.

Domestic Violence Services:

Pee Dee Coalition offers the following services in the Pee Dee community:

  • Alternatives to Violence
  • Community Victim Assistance
  • Emergency Safe Shelter

Battering – Assaulting behavior between adults in an intimate, sexual, theoretically peer, and usually cohabiting relationship.

Four Forms of Battering – (1) physical battering, (2) sexual battering, (3) psychological battering, and (4) destruction of property or pets.

Physical Battering – Wide range of behaviors which include aggressive behavior done by the abuser to the victim’s body.

For example:

  • pushing – hitting – pulling hair
  • pinching – pounding – stabbing
  • spitting – choking – shooting
  • kicking – burning – clubbing

Sexual Battering – Involves physical acts against the victim’s body. For example:

  • Unwanted pinching of breasts, buttocks, genitals;
  • Sexual activity accompanied by physical assaults;
  • Forced sexual activity;
  • Forcing sexual activity with a third person

Psychological Battering – No contact with victim’s body. Psychological weapons rather than physical attacks. Variety of behaviors including:

  • Threats of suicide, violence, deportation, custody;
  • Forcing victim to do degrading things, fights, etc.;
  • Controlling victim’s activities; sleep, eating, habits, social relationships, access to money, etc.;
  • Constant attacks on victim’s self-esteem.

Destruction of property or pets – No contact with victim’s body, but assaults still intended for victim. Destruction not random, not merely “ventilation.” Same impact on victim as physical abuse. For example:

  • Destroying objects during arguments;
  • Breaking victim’s favorite property;
  • Attacks on victim’s pets;

Similarities of four forms of battering –

  1. Done without concern for victim’s mental or physical well-being.
  2. Done to show domination, to control the victim, to punish.
  3. Reoccurring, often escalating in severity and frequency.