Tips for Handling Holiday Trauma & Anxiety as a Survivor of Sexual Assault

Submission by Tracey Miller, Director of Prevention Programs

The holiday season is typically filled with family, cheer, and celebration, but for sexual assault survivors, this time of year can be volatile. There are several common stressors for survivors that may present themselves because of the holidays, so here are a few ways we can support those who need it most.

One of the most common triggers of anxiety and stress for sexual assault survivors is being around family. Whether there are family members who do not know about the survivor’s situation, family members who know and do not believe the survivor, or even family members who played a role in the abuse, it can be difficult to head home for the holidays. For survivors who are planning to be around loved ones, it’s important to have a safety plan that will foster healing during difficult interactions.

As family and friends of a sexual assault survivor, there are several ways to support your loved one. The first is to listen and ask them what they need to feel secure during holiday events. This will allow you to create a safe space for them to feel seen, heard, and understood.

Another way to support survivors is to keep an open line of communication, making sure to check in on them often. Encourage them to journal or speak to their therapist when difficult feelings arise during the holidays, and remind them they are not alone. It is also essential to encourage moments of self-care where they can step away from the hustle and bustle and take time for themselves. If an individual feels they need to step away, do not invade their space or ask probing questions.

There are also plenty of ways the community can support sexual assault survivors. For starters, educating yourself on certain topics, such as victim-blaming language, can be essential during this time, especially if you anticipate being around a survivor. Being mindful of what you are posting on social media, as a survivor might see it and be triggered, is also key any time of year, particularly during the holidays.

Avoiding movies and songs that include triggering content is another way to be helpful this season. While something may not offend you, each survivor experiences different triggers, and their comfort and safety should be prioritized.

Lastly, remind survivors experiencing difficult feelings this holiday season that it is okay to be triggered, even if your experience took place years ago. There are no right or wrong ways to feel, and know that you are not your thoughts. You can get through this by relying on your support system and available resources. Practice fun in your healing and self-care. When possible, be an advocate for yourself during this time.

If you'd like to receive more information, please contact Pee Dee Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Assault at our 24/7 crisis line at 843-669-4600 or 1-800-273-1820.